My greatest teaching about love is my ability day to day, moment to moment to give my self love. Really I am not giving my self this love at all, but actually allowing myself to receive it. To remember as my guides are always saying, to stay and breathe in the fluid love current where divine love flows always without condition or rules. As I have experienced the many challenges of life in the past year, I have to say, it is reaching for a life that reflects the love I am that has gotten me through some of the darkest nights of my soul.
So, here is what I have learned about real self love. I trust, without a doubt, that real love for self is the bridge to knowing real love with anyone else. I hope these short thoughts are helpful for you. I hope they inspire you to start a dialog with love and ask it what it has to tell you.
1. You are responsible for keeping your self in the love current, no one else can do that for you. But, rest assured, you are not alone on this path of taking 100% responsibility for loving your self. Self love does not mean that you must do it alone. When you hold your self apart from love you hold others responsible for giving you this vital spiritual nutrient. And when you hold others responsible for feeding you, you become like a child and can fall into victim consciousness. This removes you from the power that you have to make the choice to have a new experience. When you decide to bring your self back to love, again and again, over and over, you remember that you have a choice and with that choice comes the freedom to feel more love.
2. Self love means that you open your self to having new experiences rather than recycling the old pains and wounds. This means that you gather up the courage and the clarity to recognize what is not working in your life, where you keep banging your head against the wall, and say, "No more. Love would not want me to feel this way. I know that love is all around me and I will focus upon it until my life reflects it. And I call into my life the new experiences that I need to show me that I AM love and acceptance."
3. True self love is unconditional. You are enough right now to receive unconditional love. Forgive yourself for thinking that you have done anything wrong that would keep you from being loved. When you withhold love from your self because you feel you haven't done enough, made a mistake, are not good enough right now in this moment, or have caused negative experiences in your life, then you are actually perpetuating the cycle of self abuse. When you are deeply self loving you are actually holding boundaries around your own repetitive thought patterns of self criticism and allowing your self to make mistakes as a necessary part of learning about who you are and who you are not. Do not make self love a test- do not give it to your self only when you have succeeded. Give your self permission to let love melt the rigidity of this ideal. For love is the only thing that truly can.
4. Taking responsibility for other people's choices and reactions will make it more difficult to experience true self love. Learn how to watch the people in your life make their own choices with compassion and know that you can neither save them nor change them. But rather, be a beacon of love that lights the way for them should they choose to open their eyes and see it. Anchor your self in acceptance, extend your self love to those that you care about with gentle hands and words and then let love work its magic.
I have realized that as I practice each of these love really keeps me in integrity with the light that I wish to share with the world. When I remember these aspects of love life becomes a lot simpler and lighter, and in these times of such great upheaval who couldn't use more simplicity and light? The practice of receiving the reflection of love that you truly are is just that, a practice. If you keep grounding into love and staying with your self, not abandoning love, you will find your way back to the truth of who you are.
With Aloha in my heart I wish you a Happy Valentine's Day!
Love,
KellyRose
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